Have
you ever read Gandhi's ideas about Peace?
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“You
must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the
ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.”
“The
difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to
solve most of the world’s problem.”
“If
I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.”
Mahatma
Gandhi needs no long introduction. Everyone knows about the man who lead the
Indian people to independence from British rule in 1947.
So
let’s just move on to some of my favourite tips from Mahatma Gandhi.
1. Change yourself.
“You
must be the change you want to see in the world.”
“As
human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world
– that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake
ourselves.”
If
you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think
then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world
around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment
through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within
can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have
thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns.
And
the problem with changing your outer world without changing yourself is thatyou
will still be you when you reach that change you have strived for. You
will still have your flaws, anger, negativity, self-sabotaging tendencies etc.
intact.
And
so in this new situation you will still not find what you hoped for since your
mind is still seeping with that negative stuff. And if you get more without
having some insight into and distance from your ego it may grow more powerful.
Since your ego loves to divide things, to find enemies and to create separation
it may start to try to create even more problems and conflicts in your life and
world.
2.
You are in control.
“Nobody
can hurt me without my permission.”
What
you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a
“normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just
all it is.
You
can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything.
You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps
not every time or instantly. Sometimes a knee-jerk reaction just goes off. Or
an old thought habit kicks in.
And
as you realize that no-one outside of yourself can actually control how you
feel you can start to incorporate this thinking into your daily life and
develop it as a thought habit. A habit that you can grow stronger and stronger
over time. Doing this makes life a whole lot easier and more
pleasurable.
3.
Forgive and let it go.
“The
weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
“An
eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
Fighting
evil with evil won’t help anyone. And as said in the previous tip, you always
choose how to react to something. When you can incorporate such a thought habit
more and more into your life then you can react in a way that is more useful to
you and others.
You
realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in
your world a great service. And spending your time in some negative memory
won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you can learn from that
experience. You’ll probably just cause yourself more suffering and paralyze
yourself from taking action in this present moment.
If
you don’t forgive then you let the past and another person to control how you
feel. By forgiving you release yourself from those bonds. And then you can
focus totally on, for instance, the next point.
4.
Without action you aren’t going anywhere.
“An
ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
Without
taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be hard and
difficult. There can be much
inner resistance.
And
so you may resort to preaching, as Gandhi says. Or reading and studying
endlessly. And feeling like you are moving forward. But getting little or no
practical results in real life.
So,
to really get where you want to go and to really understand yourself and your
world you need to practice. Books can mostly just bring you knowledge. You have
to take action and translate that knowledge into results and understanding.
You
can check out a few effective tips to overcome this problem in How
to Take More Action: 9 Powerful Tips. Or you can move on to the next point
for more on the best tip for taking more action that I have found so far.
5.
Take care of this moment.
“I
do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the
present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”
The
best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often stops us
from taking action is to stay in the present as much as possible and to be
accepting.
Why?
Well, when you are in the present moment you don’t worry about the next moment
that you can’t control anyway. And the resistance to action that comes from you
imagining negative future consequences – or reflecting on past failures – of
your actions loses its power. And so it becomes easier to both take action and
to keep your focus on this moment and perform better.
Have
a look at 8
Ways to Return to the Present Moment for tips on how quickly step into
the now. And remember that reconnecting with and staying in the now is a mental
habit – a sort of muscle – that you grow. Over time it becomes more powerful
and makes it easier to slip into the present moment.
6.
Everyone is human.
“I
claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I
own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace
my steps.”
“It
is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that
the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”
When
you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced
extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them.
You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did
because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that
everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.
And
I think it’s important to remember that we are all human and prone to make
mistakes. Holding people to unreasonable standards will only create more
unnecessary conflicts in your world and negativity
within you.
It’s
also important to remember this to avoid falling into the pretty useless habit
of beating yourself up over mistakes that you have made. And instead be able to
see with clarity where you went wrong and what you can learn from your mistake.
And then try again.
7.
Persist.
“First
they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you
win.”
Be
persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away. And your
inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to hold you back and
keep you like you have always been will grow weaker.
Find
what you really like to do. Then you’ll find the inner motivation to keep
going, going and going. You can also find a lot of useful tips on how keep your
motivation up in How
to Get Out of a Motivational Slump and 25
Simple Ways to Motivate Yourself.
One
reason Gandhi was so successful with his method of non-violence was because he
and his followers were so persistent. They just didn’t give up.
Success
or victory will seldom come as quickly as you would have liked it to. I think
one of the reasons people don’t get what they want is simply because they give
up too soon. The time they think an achievement will require isn’t the same
amount of time it usually takes to achieve that goal. This faulty belief partly
comes from the world we live in. A world full of magic pill solutions where
advertising continually promises us that we can lose a lot of weight or earn a
ton of money in just 30 days. You can read more about this in One
Big Mistake a Whole Lot of People Make.
Finally,
one useful tip to keep your persistence going is to listen to Gandhi’s third
quote in this article and keep a sense of humor. It can lighten things up at
the toughest of times.
8.
See the good in people and help them.
“I
look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t
presume to probe into the faults of others.”
“Man
becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his
fellow-men.”
“I
suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along
with people.”
There
is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so
good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want improvement
then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life
easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and
positive.
And
when you see the good in people it becomes easier to motivate yourself to be of
service to them. By being of service to other people, by giving them value you
not only make their lives better. Over time you tend to get what you give. And
the people you help may feel more inclined to help other people. And so you,
together, create an upward spiral of positive change that grows and becomes
stronger.
By
strengthening your social skills you can become a more influential person and
make this upward spiral even stronger. A few articles that may provide you with
useful advice in that department are Do
You Make These 10 Mistakes in a Conversation? and Dale
Carnegie’s Top 10 Tips for Improving Your Social Skills. Or you can just
move on to the next tip.
9.
Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self.
“Happiness
is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
“Always
aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying
your thoughts and everything will be well.”
I
think that one of the best tips for improving your social skills is to behave
in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People seem to
really like authentic communication. And there is much inner enjoyment to be
found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned. You
feel powerful and good
about yourself.
When
words and thoughts are aligned then that shows through in your communication.
Because now you have your voice tonality and body language – some say they are
over 90 percent of communication – in alignment with your words.
With
these channels in alignment people tend to really listen to what you’re saying.
You are communicating without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of
phoniness.
Also,
if your actions aren’t in alignment with what you’re communicating then you
start to hurt your own belief in what you can do. And other people’s belief in
you too.
10.
Continue to grow and evolve.
”Constant
development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his
dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”
You
can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or
re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and
the world.
Sure,
you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time
to time. You may have trouble to act congruently or to communicate
authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself
into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old
views to appear consistent while you realise within that something is wrong.
It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more
useful path to take.
I agree with these tips.))) By the way, Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi was the preeminent leader of Indian nationalism in British-ruled India. Employing nonviolent civil disobedience, Gandhi led India to independence and inspired movements for civil rights and freedom across the world.
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